What is Relationalism as a Christian approach?

How do we define what it means to be Christian? This is certainly a loaded question that too often becomes heated around questions of beliefs and doctrinal wars. For me, I don't care so much about denominational or doctrinal beliefs, but rather what is your relationship with God and Christ like? This is somewhat contingent upon your beliefs about God, but ultimately your relationship is what it is. If we were to parallel this with your relationship with your spouse or significant other, no one cares whether you believe that you should kiss her in the morning before you leave, or only when you are about to go to bed, or whether or not you should kiss her at all. Rituals in marriage or beliefs about how things are done in marriage are not what keeps them strong, rather the quality of your relationship is what is important. This is also what is most important with God as well. Keeping this relationship strong and intimate sorts out everything else. I once had a Christian friend who would greet me with,"How are you and Jesus doing?" in much the same way someone might ask me, "How's the marriage with the wife?" What would happen if we view life and our walk with God on a personal and relational level, rather than a doctrinal and political level? In subsequent days, I will be posting from a relational approach of examining what it is to be Christian.